The rules of flirting can be complicated. The other person may not say it all through their words. When it comes to flirting, actions can sometimes speak louder than words. So what does it mean when a woman plays with her hair?
Women often communicate through non-verbal cues, so a woman playing with her hair may indicate her romantic interest in a person. In other situations however, this could just be a sign that a woman is fidgety or nervous. A woman playing with her hair has to be understood in the context of her overall body language.
Is there a science behind why women use non-verbal cues and how can we understand them better?
What Does The Science Say?
From an evolutionary perspective, healthy hair is a sign of good health. And good health meant attracting an able mate, so at the base of it all, men are attracted to women’s hair. This may explain why women often play with their hair when they are romantically interested in someone, without even realising it.
However, body language should be understood as a whole and not through isolated actions. Is a woman making eye contact, touching you, standing close to you? Then playing with her hair may mean she’s interested in you.
But human beings are not that simple, and the same action could mean two different things in two different settings. So a woman playing with her hair could also be a sign of nervousness.
If playing with hair is accompanied by fidgeting, avoiding eye contact, and tapping fingers of feet, it could be a sign that a woman is nervous. She may be nervous about this particular scenario, such as a first date. Or she could have social anxiety. It is important to not misinterpret this nervousness as romantic interest.
A woman tugging her hair could also be a sign of discomfort. In such a scenario, it’s important to try to understand what might be making her uncomfortable and not exacerbate the discomfort.
Some women play with their hair when they’re thinking. It could also be a habit of hers that has little meaning.
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What Should You Do If A Woman Plays With Her Hair?
Your response to a woman playing with her hair depends on why she is playing with her hair. You’re out on a date, she’s playing with her hair and her overall body language makes her seem interested then reciprocate with verbal cues.
If a woman is playing with her hair in a situation that may be making her nervous, such as a job interview, try to make her feel comfortable by being friendly and calming her nerves.
The key is to not read this sign alone, but to understand it keeping in mind the woman’s personality and the situation.